Losing someone, a pet, a best friend, a family member, or even a stuffed animal you’ve had for years, is one of the hardest types of pain.
A piece of you is in them, and when they’re gone, that part of you won’t come back. It scares most people, and they make rash decisions. Some will hide, others will go out, many will turn to drugs, or to a new setting, be it by moving, or changing perspective.
Loss comes to us in different ways, and you might not even realize someone’s hurting. I’ve seen my fair share of losses, especially from those around me; however, I didn’t know it for most of them til they mentioned it.
Sometimes it’s hard to see it, there’s no change in the person, they act as if everything is okay. Other times, you wish it would stop, because you feel the pain they do when they begin the stages of grief. You feel useless, at this stage. You can see, hear, and feel the pain of this person, a somber moment that seems like it goes on forever. And it will feel like that. It just might.
When feeling such large amounts of grief or loss, a heartbreak could kill you. Your blood will pump in intervals where your heart can’t guide the right amount to keep your body moving, and it could lead to worse symptoms.
Words can’t describe the feeling of loss, nor can pictures or songs. You’d have to feel it to understand, to experience the loss to connect with others who have been through what you have. Still, I wouldn’t wish the feeling of loss on anyone.
It’s a loss of a loved one, a mere memory now, a scent you can’t come across, a sound you’ll never hear again, a warmth you can’t experience anymore. It’s horrible. A piece of you is gone, nothing can ever fix that and it’s the worst feeling anyone will ever experience and it happens too many times. It never gets easier. It’ll never go away.
It’ll eat at you til you do something about it. I’m not talking necromancy to bring them back to life, or to be stupid and join them on the flip side. I mean to accept it. To understand your feelings and work through the pain. Nothing in life comes easy or without pain, so you better work your ass off to get yourself on your feet again.
Just because their life ended, doesn’t mean yours has to. You have to keep their memory alive, to remind others of their warm touch, the laughs they were the cause of, or even what they had done for you. This might takes weeks, months, or even years. It’s not going to get better, just manageable.
A change. For the better. Nothing good will come of it should you be a coward to your feelings and give up. Only losers give up, and you are no loser. The hardest step to take is the first step, so make it count.
Should you ever come across the thought of no longer existing, like your brain has gotten the better of your heart, call this number:
1-800-273-8255 or 988 if you know you can’t hold on.
It’s not much, but sometimes the best thing someone can do is listen.
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